True loving requires applying the will to override emotion. An illustration of will vs. emotion. Suppose you get the news that you have just won a million dollars and you jump up and down and start to scream with excitement, then this is raw emotion will no will involved. But if you realize that the money belongs to God and you are going to put it to good use for God's glory and thus remain calm and collected, then you have overridden emotion with will. In loving others, it's also not so much oohing and aahing at what you see, but showing your pity and compassion by doing what's required of you.
A note of caution. Since you are now detached from people (and things of the world), you could seem to be cold or somewhat inhumane to others. And if you show your love for your enemies, you may even be thought of as being stupid or weird. This should not deter you, for you aim is to please God and not others.
(All the above I wrote for myself too, as there are many others I see around who are more loving than I am.)