Today St. Fabian and St. Sebastian share the same Memorial (optional) day; both suffered martyrdom. We may not suffer physical death because of our faith, but we can be martyrs too in many other ways. St. Therese of Lisieux is a perfect example. Her "little way" calls for doing everything faithfully for the glory of God. To put your own will to death is then a form of martyrdom, not less valued by God. Anyway, the important thing is to do God's will and not be concerned about what form martyrdom takes.