Parent often have problems with their teenage children because that's when they start to assert their independence before adulthood. Here are some of the lessons I have learned.
- First, remember this part of the Peace Prayer of St. Francis: O Master, grant that I may never seek so much to be understood as to understand. Therefore, listen to your children so that you may understand them.
- Do not rush to conclusions or get emotional, for you must remain calm to be able to think clearly.
- Be gentle always, but firm at the same time if you know that you are right.
- If they are wrong, do not scold them but calmly point it out.
- Don't play the blame game. Tell them how you feel about it, rather than pointing the finger at them.
- If you are in the wrong, admit that, so they'll see that you are also human and have enough humility.
- It's best that both parents agree on how to teach and discipline their children.
- Treat all your children fair and equally; never show any favoritism.
- Your own example is the best way to teach your children.
- Realize that all of them are souls that belong to God, not you. Each of them will have to respond to God individually. You are here to do your best to love them and to guide them; then you let them go. (Consecrate them to the Lord as early as possible.)
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