This morning my parked car was accidentally hit by another car, creating a big dent. The years-ago I would have felt distressed because of my attachment to a car that had been preserved in good shape for almost 14 years. But today the initial distress felt came from thinking that I now must deal with filing an insurance claim, finding a repair shop, facing the inconvenience of not having the car, etc. ~ not exactly fun. I have learned to offer up all my sufferings to God and realize that what I now have to go through is really a form of suffering. And of course, there are no accidents ~ everything that God allows to happen has a purpose behind it. Yes, I am repeating again that everything is a grace as St. Therese said. The distress is all gone and I feel grateful that the Lord always lovingly shows the way.
Speaking of offering up my sufferings, if they are caused by things totally out of my control, I don't find it hard to perform the act ~ I guess I just become resigned to the inevitable outcome. Then once I caused suffering to myself entirely due to my own fault, I found it hard to let go. I think it's because I blamed myself and thought that I deserved to suffer. In the end, God showed me clearly that it doesn't matter who or what caused the suffering ~ any suffering offered up to him is meritorious and pleasing to him.